Probably the single most damaging self-limiting belief is the idea that a person could be inadequate, unworthy, incomplete…or ‘not enough.’ This thought-virus pervades our planet, largely as a result of the many trillions of dollars spent on mass-media advertising to convince people that “If you would just buy our product…then…and only then…you will be OK, acceptable, worthy, a better mother, a good person, more beautiful,” and so on. All the adverts are saying is “you are not enough as you are and you will only be ‘enough’ when you find your missing piece. And we have it here in a variety of sizes, shapes and colors.”
Like all self-limiting beliefs, the “I am not enough” meme is a lie. And the very idea that a person could, at some fundamental level be ‘not enough,’ apart from being ludicrous, has done enormous damage to the lives of billions of people. Because, to live inside the lie of ‘not enough’ is to suffer and to fall short of personal joy and fulfillment. And then you die, with regrets, assuming that the lie was true.
So, in this post, I want to distinguish “I am enough” as an antidote to the toxic “unworthiness meme” that has been proliferating in The Matrix, in hopes that in some way, this may help people to recover their sense of ‘enough-ness’ and realize they are in fact Unstoppable.
Some people when hearing about “I am enough” for the first time, have this reaction:
“If I buy into this, it means there will no longer be any motivation to go after my goals or pursued my dreams. I will just sit on my ass thinking ‘I am enough’ and feel I don’t need to do anything at all. To hell with that.”
This idea, that we need to have a sense of incompleteness or unworthiness in order to be motivated is a bit strange, if you think about it. Translated, it says, “The only way to motivate people is to first make them feel ‘less-than’ or ‘not good enough’ and then persuade them that ‘someday’…when they have done A, B, C….then they will be good enough.” Quite a lot like the message of all that mass-media advertising, is it not?
The “someday I’ll be OK” notion implies that, on the way to ‘success’ you are doomed to living each day from a sense of inadequacy, not really good enough, flawed and incomplete, and, that such a state of unworthiness is going to be motivating over the long term! Ludicrous!
So now let me explain what “I am enough” really means:
“I am enough” is a stand for personal wholeness that is an intrinsic and integral part of every human being, from birth. It can never be increased nor can it be diminished. It says: ‘I am worthy, because I am here, and nothing can threaten my worth, ever. My worth is never ‘up for grabs.’
“I am enough” is a very powerful message to the subconscious mind, declaring, “I am good, I am worthy, I deserve, I can have a good life, I am accepted, always and in All Ways.” Since the mind always does what it thinks you want it to do, it’s safe to assume that a mind programmed with “I am enough” as a core assumption is going to produce a life of joy and fulfillment.
(Unlike a life lived from “I’m not enough, I’m flawed, incomplete and inadequate across the board, which is going to be a life of sadness, shame, and self-fulfilling failures.)
“I am enough” is broad and pervasive in its positive implications:
I am strong enough
I am smart enough
I am beautiful enough
I am powerful enough
I am resilient enough
I am happy enough
I am talented enough
I am good enough
I am capable enough
I am worthy enough
“I am enough” implies that, in every way that matters, I am irrevocably adequate, whole, complete and essentially wonderful…simply because I am a miracle of the Universe. Did you know that the odds against anyone existing at all are 1 in 400 trillion? J
When I live from the understanding and the knowing that “I am enough” I can choose to pursue anything that lights me up, inspires me, fulfills me or contributes to the world. In other words, I can pursue my dreams from a position of worthiness… instead of a position of fear and self-loathing due to my alleged inadequacy. Every day, in every way, I AM ENOUGH.
People who realize they are enough have different self-talk from those who believe they are inadequate and this self-talk reinforces their ‘enough-ness’ in a positive loop:
I am enough…so I deserve love
I am enough…so I love myself as I am right now…no waiting
I am enough…so I have something to offer the world
I am enough…so my mistakes are just bumps in the road, not ‘evidence” of inadequacy
I am enough…so I’m a great person
I am enough…so I have the courage to pursue my dreams
I am enough…so I know I cannot ‘fail’
Renowned therapist Marisa Peer, a huge proponent of the transformative power of ‘I am enough’ reminds us that:
“Every word you say or think is a blueprint for your reality.
We make our thoughts and then our thoughts make us.”
The Core Issue. Working with people from all walks of life, rich and poor, Marisa noticed that the core issue for every one of her clients was that they believed “I am not enough…there is something wrong with me.”
As such they had pursued every manner of dysfunctional life strategy ‘in order to’…be enough…someday. And she found that in every case, when her clients really ‘got it’ that they were already ‘enough’ their lives transformed rapidly and effortlessly; the suffering was over. In my terms, they awakened to the fact of their Unstoppability…and were no longer stopped.
“I am enough” stops the suffering. The worst thing about a belief in being ‘not enough’ is that is a form of deep suffering and pain. Imagine being in a trance of believing you are less-than, inadequate, unworthy and unlovable…all the while comparing yourself to others you believe are worthy ‘because they made it to the top’ or performed in remarkable ways that you have not. The Big Lie of “not enough” is incredibly painful and undermines your possibilities…it does NOT empower or motivate you in any way.
“I am enough” is immediate and always true. It is not linked to any standard of achievement. It is not a reward you aspire to. It is already yours, because you were born. It is a gift. Will you accept this gift?
One more wonderful quote from Marisa Peer, a champion of the #IAMENOUGH movement:
“You can choose what you say to yourself. But you don’t get to choose what happens when you self-criticize and put yourself down. Where the head goes, the body follows and you are inviting a weakened immune system, depression, anxiety and endless stress.”
In other words, when you put yourself down with your self-talk, you are shooting yourself in the foot and making yourself Stoppable.
invite you to put up Post-It notes all around you with the words “I am enough” on them. Each time you see the words “I am enough” just go ahead and accept it as a fact. When your Inner Critic puts you down, just reply with “Thanks but I am enough and I am unstoppable.” Find out what happens.
Make no mistake: you are already Unstoppable and you are already Enough. The Unstoppable Workshop™ is simply a portal for those who may not have fully realized it…yet.
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